To put it lightly, there are a lot of decisions that have to be made when entering into a union with another person. It requires deep preparation both physically – like figuring out what venue you want to have your wedding at – and emotionally – like when it feels like everything is happening all at once and you just can’t keep up. Though, it’s easy for us to forget one other crucial aspect of entering into a marriage: the spiritual aspect.

God has been speaking to both my fiancé and I on the importance of focusing on just us two in our marriage. And what I mean by that is that He has urged us to quicken our ear to listen to Him and lend a cautious ear to the surrounding voices around us.

Now, I’m not saying that you can’t get advice on the physical aspects of your wedding, but once you begin to let others dictate what your marriage should be like, a red flag should go up. That should strictly be discussed between you, your spouse and God. Of course, you should heed wise counsel from a Godly man and/or woman of God that you trust, but be very careful with disclosing the personal aspects of your relationship with everyone.

Satan is very crafty, and when he sees what God is doing in your life, he will try to use your insecurities and fears against you. Unfortunately, those fears and insecurities can be rooted in what even those closest to you say. The devil may be evil, but he also was an angel, which means he knows the word of God. He can easily bend the truth just a smidge so that we can hardly tell that it’s a lie after all.

I know I’ve said this once before, but you can’t make everyone happy. There’s always going to be someone that doesn’t like something you are doing in regards to your wedding. However, you have to realize that the wedding is just a day but the marriage lasts a lifetime. What’s most important is that you and your spouse keep God first and focus on building a union together.That’s what really matters.

-Jas